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Student Wellbeing

 

We often compare ourselves to other people and it is easy to dwell on our failings and criticise ourselves. But this clearly makes it much harder for us to be happy. It sounds simple but learning to accept ourselves and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong has been shown to increase our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our wellbeing. It also helps our levels of tolerance for other people and celebrates our differences. 

Dr Kristin Neff is one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion (http://self-compassion.org/). She advocates for us to treat ourselves as we would treat a good friend. By practising self-compassion we can turn the enemies in our head into friends:

"People who are compassionate to themselves are much more likely to be happy, resilient, optimistic and motivated to change themselves and their lives for the better. When our inner voice plays the role of a supportive friend (not a continual critic), then when we notice some personal failing, we feel safe and accepted enough to see ourselves clearly and make the changes needed to be healthier and happier" Dr Kristin Neff.

Try the University Counselling Service workshops on Self-Compassion or Healthy Self Esteem